Mother: Do you ever look back and think about your different woulda, shoulda, coulda’s? I got to thinking about this because of a question one of my granddaughters ask. She graduated this spring with a bachelor degree in psychology, but has always planned on going to medical school. She has been looking for a job for the summer, but planned on going back to school in the fall. While applying for jobs she found an ad for a position that requires a bachelors in psychology and is unsure if she should pursue the position. Her concern is if she goes into the “adult” working world and likes it, what if she gets comfortable and gives up on going on to medical school.
I understand where she is coming from. When I was younger I had more of those kinds of thoughts. The world was so big and I kept changing my mind as to where I wanted to fit into it. From Nancy Drew super sleuth to corporate attorney, from Mother Teresa to Barbara Walters and everything in between I wanted to do big things. Would I have been tough enough to be in the corporate world and fight legal battles? Could I have given up my hair dryer and make up to go to Calcutta? I know I could be nosy enough to be a private investigator but could I have been tenacious enough to set for hours in a dark car with no where to pee? lol
There are big woulda, shoulda, coulda’s in life and there are the small ones that could add up to something big. We all have them. But as we age we get better at making life decisions. We want to live with purpose and joy. The birthdays come faster and wasted days and weeks turn into months and years. You realize nothing lasts forever be it good or bad. Something that was a coulda in your twenties becomes an I did it in later years. You want to live a fuller life as you age. You don’t want to have regrets.
I have to say I have very few woulda, shoulda coulda’s. I have done a lot in my 66 years and have to say I have done most of what I wanted to do. There are a couple of relationships that I shoulda gotten out of sooner. And I coulda gone on with my education, but the one I choose served me well. Over all I have no real regrets and this quote says it perfectly “Life should NOT be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in an attractive and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, chocolate in one hand,wine in the other, body thoroughly used up, totally worn out and screaming “WOO HOO what a ride!”
How about you? Do you live with some regrets or do you have a life lived well?
Till next time.