Man vs Woman or Simply Me vs Him?


Daughter:  Man vs Woman, Woman vs Man, the age long struggle is STILL very real!!  The point of this post is to get some definite feedback.  Though the struggle I’m getting ready to share may not be yours, please feel free to share your struggle in the comments.  Please, I need to know!!  I’m hoping to pull a “Neener Neener, I told ya so” on my husband!  But if not, I shall have my crow with a side of sweet potato fries!

Dear Husband was driving my “swagon” (I refuse to use the term mini-van) the other day.  Two miles from the house, low and behold, the LOW FUEL LIGHT CAME ON!!!  ACKKKKK!!! “Danger, Danger Will Robinson!!”  I don’t even want to look in dear husband’s direction for I know my eyes will come face to face with……”The Stink Eye”!!!  When ever he is driving and I hear that ding I know it’s coming….oy vey.  This is an ongoing disagreement between the two of us.  He swears it is a Man vs Woman issue, I think it’s just a Me vs Him issue.

In his opinion, if the low fuel light comes on I have failed and failed BIG! How dare I let the swagon get that low on fuel!!  Did I mention he swears that the low fuel light only goes off on him so that he is the one that has to stop and fill it up.  And mind you, he might drive my swagon a whopping one time a week on average!  Just like each and every time this discussion arises I state my perspective on the issue.  The low fuel light is a courteous reminder from my beloved swagon prompting me to refuel at my earliest convenience. (insert batting eyelashes here)  After all, I still have 30+ miles after the light goes off, right?! I try to explain to my dear husband that unlike him I do not frequent gas station/convenience stores.  His job requires him to be on the road and he always has to have a beverage in hand at all times.  The only time I am at a gas station is to fuel my swagon.  Or maybe to treat the girls to an occasional Slurpie!  Too, when I do stop to fill up I like to do it where I know I’ll get the most bang for my buck.  I’m totally aware of what parts of town have the cheapest gas and I like to stop at places where I get discounts and that have reward systems in place.  I will even go as far as to arrange my schedule to be in those areas when the fuel gauge alerts me it will need more fuel soon.  This drives him even more batty, the fact that I don’t stop immediately when the light comes on!!  LOL

Besides, I’ve got more important things to think about other than the gas gauge of my swagon, especially since it will tell me when it needs fuel!  I’m busy running through our family of 5’s daily schedule, who needs to be where and what time, what my work hours are and if I need to make arrangements to have someone picked up or dropped off, what’s for dinner, what laundry needs done that day, what phones calls and emails need to be taken care of, who has what appointments and again do they conflict with my work schedule.  In a nut shell, why should I give my swagon’s fuel gauge any thought until it makes me aware that it’s low??





Mother:  I laugh because fuel isn’t what I get “the look” for, I get it over electronics.  I took a computer class in college ump-teen years ago and almost failed.  It is a joke now because I have my lap top, my IPad, two Kindles, a smart watch and a smart phone and can use them fairly well as long as they don’t have a problem, but if something happens unexpectedly and I have to ask dear husband for help, o my gosh do I get “the look”!  For some reason every time I run the cleaner on my computer I lose my tool bar.  I have finally learned how to get it back but it has taken numerous teaching moments.  Now for some reason the last time I cleaned my lap top I lost my buttons for Pinterest, Amazon, and Ebates.   Husband heard me talking to daughter about it and I got “the look”.  As soon as I got off the phone I hear, “What is wrong with your computer this time?”.

I am a smart lady, why does my phone and every other piece of electronic equipment try to defeat me?  I was trying to take a picture of something yesterday and send it to daughter.  Finally, dear husband comes over, takes the phone, takes the picture and sends it.  He looks at me and says, “Now did you see what I did?”.  Yes, I saw what he did, but, it doesn’t mean I will be able to repeat it the next time the need arises.   I do have to say in my own defense, I no longer smack my mouse on the table when my computer isn’t doing what I want it to!

I think each person in a relationship has that one thing that dances on a nerve.  Maybe it is Man vs Woman and the whole different thought process.  I heard a woman the other day complaining about a gentleman that was running for office.  She said he was sexist because he was speaking “man speak”.  I am not real sure what “man speak” is, but it is reasonable to think that if there is such a thing there must be “woman speak” also.

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  1. Debbie

    I agree with daughters husband on the fuel thing. Can’t help it lived with a car nut for 46 years. It’s hard on the electric fuel pump. And electronics defeat me as well. Sadly they defeat my husband too. So I guess it all balances out.

  2. Ha! There are always little differences of opinion in any relationship! I’ve put gas in our car all of one time since I got married–somehow, my husband decided it’s his job to always make sure I have gas and has never been the least bit lax in his self-imposed duty (the one time I had to do it was while on a road trip away from him). I think that’s an unusual system he’s made–I obviously always put gas in my own car before marriage, but I appreciate that little habit of his very much, since gas stations aren’t exactly the most fun places to stop.


      The thing that I get “the look” over with regards to the car is washing it, taking time to go to a car wash isn’t on my to do list. Husband on the other had can’t run to the grocery store without a side trip to the car wash. lol Thank you so much for reading and commenting.

  3. Hahaha! In our marriage, it’s the other way around- I would prefer to keep the tank full all the time, he waits until we’re about to coast to stop on fumes to sidle up to a gas station. Drives me batty. And fortunately my husband is patient with my inability to comprehend the functioning of some electronic devices. We have other things we each get ‘the look’ for.


      Thank you so much for your comment. Yes I think we all have something we get “the look” over. My husband is happy because I stopped slamming the mouse down every time my computer wasn’t doing what I thought it should. lol

  4. Thankfully, my husband doesn’t mind pumping my gas so I totally take advantage of that. Especially in the winter. He’ll even make a special trip out!

  5. I’m with you on the fuel warning light! The only time I check the gauge “early” is if I happen to be near a place with a low gas price.

    I have gotten less attitude over electronics since the time (about 12 years ago) when I asked him to write down instructions for using the DVD player in case I wanted to watch a movie while he was out of town. He rolled his eyes, “It’s very simple!” But when he wrote out the instructions, he realized that there were THIRTEEN crucial steps–not so simple!

    I think that there is such a thing as “woman speak” and it’s those comments that sound innocent but are really snarky, like the time in high school I introduced my mom to one of my friends and as soon as he was out of earshot she said, “He’s nice. Can anything be done about his acne?” or when I was 30 and trying to conceive and my cousin, 27 with three kids, said, “I hear Vitamin E improves fertility, especially in older women.” I wanted to slap her, and my man was totally baffled when I told him about it!


      Thank you so much for your comment. I feel sometimes with the tv remote like that commercial where they have to get Roger. lol Electronics are not my thing and I don’t pretend they are. And yes I do think sometimes “woman speak” is snarky. lol

  6. My husband and I – opposite in same scenario. I am the one that has the last word when it comes to the fuel light. It use to be like this in the beginning of our marriage, “a sweet, caring husband would make sure his wife’s car had a full tank of gas in it, always.” Well, 30 years later, I’m the one who continues to pump my own gas, no matter who is driving the car last. I’ve learned to just accept it and pick my battles in other areas. Gives me a reason to get a cup of coffee or a dark chocolate candy bar! LOL! Happy Easter and thanks for visiting this week.


      Thank you for reading and commenting. I agree, after a time you learn to pick your battles. lol My husbands big thing is getting the car washed, that is something I never think about. lol

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