Mother: I can’t ever remember my mother or grandmothers complaining about some of the things that tell me I am getting older. My grandmother lived to a nice age of 94, her mother, my great-grandmother was 98 when she passed on. My mother, due to a number of health issues, only lived to 74. This is an aside but still worth noting, all the women in my life married younger men and out lived them. I am not sure what this says, maybe we are hard to live with, who knows! I am married to someone my exact same age, we were born on the same day and month, of the same year in the same city, but only time will tell how this works out, lol.
I go to the gym 4 days a week and my muscles stay sore. My mother and grandmothers worked in and on the house, in the yard and anywhere else that needed something done. I never once heard them say “boy I am sore all over, that was a hard workout yesterday”. My grandmother could still touch her toes and walk a mile back and forth to the bus stop at 90. I moisturize from top to toe and still my skin is dry and looks older. My moisturizer budget is almost as big as my food budget! I never heard any of these older women worry about how moist their skin was. For grandmother Noxzema was what she used for her face and my mother was an Oil of Olay lady.
And Weight! It is a constant battle of the bulge in my life! I count carbs, I am not sure the women in my past knew what a carb was! The most my mother ever weighed was at 9 months pregnant with me, she got up to 117 lbs. I only wish I could see 117 lbs again, lol I say all the time I went from a 6x in children’s to a ladies 14 without any stops in between!
When I went through menopause I went on hormones, I felt like my body had turned against me. Hot flashes, night sweats, messed-up thought process, you name it I had it! I asked my mother how going through menopause was for her. Her reply, ” I went through just like Mother, I noticed one month I hadn’t gotten my period for awhile”. I asked her, ” No night sweats, no hot flashes?” “No”, she said, “The whole process was over before I knew it.” O well, no bonding over menopause with Mom, lol!
Bad knees, remembering my own name, much less the lady that has lived next door for the last ten years, that’s how it is now. The old joke was the reason 50 year old women don’t have babies is because they would lay them down and forget where they left them. My grandmother could remember the names of the people she had graduated college with 50+ years before.
O well, all I can do is take each day as it comes and be Grateful for each one. As I always say ” every day on this side of the grass is a good day”.
Daughter: This aging thing is definitely not what I thought it was going to be! It all started once I hit the Big 4-0! Little aches and pains turned into bigger aches and pains. The mood swings left my family running for cover, lol! It has been a big adjustment learning what my body can now do and not do, but we are finally working it out.
As with Mother, it’s the weight issue that I have the biggest problem with. Especially now, with my hormones all in an uproar, I’m still trying to find what is going to work. I’ve been low carbing and going to the gym faithfully for the past 5 months but that doesn’t seem to be making a difference. Plus, my body has been throwing me new curve balls every couple of weeks here lately, so a call to the doctor is more than likely going to be in my near future. For a few weeks I was in a total outrage about it all but I’m trying to be calmer now and take refuge in that fact that I am doing everything I know to do and at some point it will all fall into place. Too, let’s not forget about the power of medication, sometimes a girl just has to do what a girl has to do to get through certain seasons in life.
Another major issue I’ve noticed with me is my flexibility. I feel stiff all the time and if I pick something up wrong I tweak my back (no fun). To help remedy this I’ve started a running program, doing stretches and getting back into yoga. I’m hoping the stiffness and loss of agility is due to the extra weight I’m carrying right now. Again it all comes down to my weight, that’s why I started the running program. The stretching and yoga go hand in hand with the running to help my muscles endure the stress of it all, lol!
I know Mother did not have any bonding experiences with her mother over these aging issues but I am so thankful that my Mother is always right there with words of wisdom and funny stories to share regarding exactly how I’m feeling at that moment! And as she’s sharing, I’m always so astonished at what she’s describing….it’s exactly me….every time! Now of course, I truly hate that she had to experience these things but on the other hand I’m so thankful to have someone that actually understands, that doesn’t make me think I’m crazy, lol! Honestly, I am a little crazy but aren’t we all???